So this has turned into a huge fight in my family, and I don’t know if I’m in the wrong or not. I lost my fiancé, Dorian, three years ago in a car accident. It was horrible, and I’m still healing from it. One of the few things I have left of him is my engagement ring. I don’t wear it anymore, but I keep it in a box on my dresser because it means the world to me.
Last week, my younger sister, Elara, got engaged and we were all so happy for her. But then she pulled me aside and asked me for a favor. She said since I’m not using Dorian’s ring anymore, I should give it to her so she can have a diamond ring. I just stared at her and asked if she was serious. She said yes because it would be a beautiful way to honor Dorian and also be practical since diamonds are expensive.
The family divide.
I refused. The ring is one of the last things I have of Dorian, and I’m not giving it away. She got upset and said I was being selfish. Since I’m dating someone new now, I should be moving on and letting go of the past. I told her that moving on does not mean erasing Dorian from my life.
Then she started to cry. It all escalated when my mom got involved. My mom immediately took her side, saying that holding onto the ring is only keeping me stuck in grief and that giving it to Elara would help me move forward and be symbolic. I told them both to drop it, but Elara keeps texting me, saying she deserves a family heirloom just like our cousins got and that I’m being cruel for keeping it to myself.
My boyfriend, Cassian, is totally on my side and thinks Elara is being ridiculous, but half my family is acting like I’m the bad guy. Am I in the wrong?
