My Wife Wants to Abandon Her Law Career for Her Dream Job Leaving $195k Debt on Me – I Have a Better Idea
When my wife, Emily, announced she wanted to abandon her law career for teaching after incurring $195,000 in student debt, I thought our biggest issue was financial. But her explosive reaction to my solution revealed deeper issues in our marriage. Married at 23, now 27, we were excited for her law school journey despite the debt. Her passion was infectious, but four years later, she’s miserable and wants to join Teach For America, earning $35,000 yearly—barely enough for rent, let alone loans. When she mentioned wanting kids and staying home, I
questioned how we’d manage the debt. She accused me of using it to control her, insisting it’s “our” debt since we’re married. I suggested she take responsibility for her loans or sign an agreement to keep them separate, sparking fury. Emily saw it as a betrayal, screaming that I care more about money than her. I argued I’m focused on our stability, but she stormed off, slamming the door. Days of silence followed. Now, I’m questioning if she’s the woman I married. Her expectation that I shoulder her debt while she quits релизиоз plans feels irresponsible. I’m torn between supporting her dreams and our financial survival, wondering if I ever truly knew her.
