I Won’t Let My Husband Be a Birth Partner for His BFF, He’s Married — Not on Call for Single Moms

My husband and I have been married for 10 years and tried for a child for over 7. After years of heartbreak, we learned I’m infertile. I thought we had accepted that together.

Then his childhood best friend, Leah, got pregnant. The father left, and now—weeks before giving birth—she asked my husband to be her birth partner. That already felt uncomfortable… but then she asked him to be on the birth certificate. As the baby’s father.

I was shocked. I told him absolutely not—this isn’t a small favor, it’s a lifelong legal and emotional commitment.

He called me selfish. Said I’m bitter because I can’t have children. Said this might be his only chance to be a father.

He already promised her he’d be in the delivery room. She even listed him as her emergency contact.

Then Leah sent me a voice message, crying and saying that if I really loved him, I’d “let him have this.” She even suggested lying later and saying the father “passed away.”

That was it for me. I told her never to contact me again—and told my husband if he signs that birth certificate, he can leave and go build a life with her.

Now he says I’m forcing him to choose.

But I feel like I’m the one being erased from my own marriage.