I Refused to Share My Bank Account Details With My BF—His Response Revealed His True Colors
Maria shared:
“I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years. Everything was fine until last week, when he asked for my bank login—not a joint account, my personal login. I said no and offered a joint account instead. He got mad, said his ex shared everything, and demanded I prove I wasn’t hiding something.
Then I found out he’d been messaging friends, calling me ‘secretive,’ and even called my mom crying, claiming I was cheating. My mom was terrified. I don’t know what to do—should I end things, or am I overreacting?”
Red Flags:
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Demanding access to private accounts is control, not love.
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Going behind your back to convince others you’re wrong is manipulation.
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Disrespecting your boundaries signals who they really are.
Advice:
“No” is a complete answer. Your peace is worth more than any timeline. Talk to someone outside the situation. Two years doesn’t mean you owe your future to someone showing red flags.
Trust your gut—it’s valid.
