Stories I Refused to Help My Ex’s New Wife Bond With My Kids Just Because She’s Infertile

I’m still shaken writing this. I need perspective because none of this feels real.

My ex cheated on me for four years. We have three kids. I divorced him, and he married the woman he cheated with—Jane. They even tried for full custody and lost. Fine. I moved on.

Then last week, he called out of nowhere asking me to help Jane “bond” with the kids because she’s infertile. I actually laughed and hung up—it sounded absurd.

But it got worse.

My son told me Jane had been showing up at their school, trying to pick them up or take them out. Thankfully, the kids refused every time. When I confronted my ex, he admitted it was her idea so she could “get closer” to them.

I snapped. I told them both to stay away from my kids.

Now he’s blowing up my phone, calling me cruel and saying I’m “mean to Jane.” I honestly don’t understand the logic. This is the same woman who helped destroy our marriage—and now she’s trying to insert herself into my children’s lives like nothing happened.

I feel angry, protective, and completely overwhelmed.

Am I overreacting? Or is this as inappropriate as it feels?

How would you handle this without losing your mind?