When I was ten, my mother braided my hair every morning—but only when my father was home. If I asked why she skipped it on other days, she’d smile and say, “It’s easier this way.” I never questioned it. I liked the gentle pull of her hands and the quiet start when he was there.
When Dad traveled, everything felt lighter. Mom lingered at breakfast, laughed at spilled milk, and we rushed out with my hair loose. I thought she was simply relaxing when it was just us.
Years later, while flipping through old photo albums, I commented on how perfect my braids always looked. She smiled, then grew quiet. Finally, she explained that my father—kind, but strict about appearances—believed the household should reflect order. On the days he was home, she woke earlier to braid my hair so mornings wouldn’t become tense.
When he was away, she gave us both permission to breathe.
Only then did I understand. “It’s easier this way” wasn’t about convenience. It was about keeping the peace while still finding small pockets of comfort.
Those braids were never just a hairstyle. They were her quiet way of holding everything together.
Now, when I braid my daughter’s hair, I think of my mother and the invisible ways parents protect love—one small choice at a time.
