A man shared his story about his eight-year marriage, highlighting tensions over financial disparities and family responsibilities. His wife, a high-earning professional making $160,000 annually, has been the primary breadwinner for five years, covering mortgage, bills, and other expenses. He earns irregularly through freelance graphic design, contributing $800–$1,000 in good months, and describes himself as still “finding his path.”
The core issue isn’t love or chores but fairness, particularly regarding support for their aging parents. His wife financially supports her parents, including $8,000 for a car, while his retired parents, less wealthy, have hinted at needing help. He suggested she contribute equally to his parents, like funding a vacation or roof repairs. She previously paid $1,200 for his mother’s dental work but now refuses further aid, insisting he “step up” for his family.
She proposed separating finances, tired of being the sole provider. He feels betrayed, arguing marriage means sharing responsibilities, and his household contributions—like cooking and cleaning—should count. She counters that love doesn’t justify dependency and refuses to fund his guilt over his parents. He feels hurt, believing she’s applying a double standard. He questions if he’s wrong to expect equal support for both families, emphasizing teamwork and fairness in marriage.
